My good boy has been gone for over a year. Although, at times, they seemed like a chore, I do miss our walks. Today, I came across these words, that I had written, a few years ago.
Cemetery Walk
After the dinner dishes have been cleared,
my movements become studied.
I check the clock and tell him,
“It’s not time yet”.
At the hour of illumination,
when the bell tower strikes 2 fingers shy of both hands,
we pass sleeping settlers, friends, acquaintances
and infamous locals.
I read their full names and calculate the age of their joys and sorrows.
We pause at the thick, wooded, overlook that rolls to a waters edge.
We listen and take in what the season allows and disallows.
Let me begin by expressing, just how happy I am that the weather has cooled and that Autumn has arrived. My windows are open and the air blowing through the house is cool, fresh and clean. My curtains are once again dancing and rejoicing with me. I am full of gratitude.
There is much freedom attached to this time of year, for me. The cooler temperatures open up many opportunities to me. My gardening is no longer restricted to the mornings and hiking and biking are enjoyed during times other than in the coolness, near sunrise and sunset.
The freedom that I am most grateful for is the ability to comfortably travel and sleep in my van. This weekend, I did just that. I could see that the weather was going to be favorable and that my people were in a good place for me to be away.
I have become proudly competent at packing quickly and efficiently for a spur of the moment adventure. I keep fresh sheets on the bed and my solar charged. I pack what I think that I may like to eat from the house, always coffee fixings and oatmeal. I usually take what is needed for a peanut butter and honey sandwich, jugs of water and cans of sparkling water. For longer, more intentional trips, I can get pretty creative with what to pack and prepare for meals. I most often, add things from farmers markets or markets that I find while on the road. I usually treat myself to a nice meal out too.
My biggest dilemma while packing is what craft should I bring? I always take my journal and what ever book I am reading. I download a movie or two. This weekend I watched “The Rest of Us”. On this trip, in the evenings, I spent most of my time crocheting and listening to the podcast “This American Life”.
My destination was Lakeside on the Marblehead Peninsula of Lake Erie, a favorite childhood and later parenthood and then grand parenthood vacation spot. I loaded my E-bike (the “game changer”) with plans to ferry over with it to Kelleys Island and to cover the island well.
I took the long way to Lakeside, not the longest way of what normally is a 114 mile journey. When traveling, I normally use Google Maps and choose the “avoid highways” filter and then adjust to a justifiable, not too much longer, route. When planning my route, I also, take into consideration the possibility of hitting Antique and Resale shops in the interest of curating the Bohoagogo line.
I slept well on the Lakeside grounds, one night under the large trees, in the overflow parking area up near the campground where the active squirrels, woke me early, by knocking something off of the trees that hit the top of my van and made a loud ping and then a shatter sound. On the second night, the weather was calling for rain. I have made the mistake of overnight parking under trees, during and after a rain storm where the residual water in the trees, would randomly drip drops of water that would sound like a rock hitting the roof at the most unexpected and nearly back to sleep times. With this, past learning experience, I decided to stay in the Historic Hotel Lakeside Parking lot where I often park during the day, to take advantage of the large, screened porch, clean bathroom and its convenient proximity to the highlights of Lakeside. It did rain that evening and the sound was steady and soothing. I believe that I could record the sound of steady rain hitting the top of my van and market it as the ultimate white noise.
The Lakeside hotel was built in 1875 and has much of the original furniture and fixtures. The Hotel has an inviting wrap around screened porch with high ceilings and white Victorian wicker furniture mixed in with large, white, wooden, wide bottomed, rocking chairs, all with royal blue, padded seats.
Historic Postcards of Hotel Lakeside
The front porch overlooks the lake and arguably, provides the best view of the islands. I have so many memories on this porch. Thirty plus years ago, when our babies where infants, my sister and I would rock them here.
Stock photo of Hotel Lakeside Porch
When relaxing on the porch, you can see the Lakeside Pavilion that sits on the lake with a long concrete fishing pier, a sandy beach and an ever evolving kiddie pool. The pavilion has been revamped and redesigned through the years and for some of my childhood years it was a funky 70’s modern design. I remember teen dances there, on the Friday nights of our Saturday to Saturday stays.
Today the pavilion design is most like the original design with two covered decks, lined with white Adirondack chairs that are perfect for viewing one of the famous, Lakeside sunsets. The sunsets are so special that while at Lakeside, most make a note of sunset times to be there each night.
Son and Grandson May 2022
On the top of the pavilion there is a clock with a Westminster bell chime that can be heard throughout most of Lakeside. Hymns are played on the hour.
When you step from the porch to the inside of the hotel, through the enormous, squeaky, screen doors, it feels like you have stepped back in time and the smell is always the same, that smell that comes from a seasonal place, a place that is closed up for the winter, a transporting, musty summer cottage scent that I always associate with Lakeside.
Postcard of Hotel Lakeside interior.
Mid day on Saturday, after visiting some local shops, I did catch the Ferry to Kelleys Island with my bike. It was cloudy and the temperature was in the mid 60’s. It felt like it might rain but the forecast did not predict any. The ferry ride takes about 20 minutes and as we crossed from Marblehead, the sun came out from behind the clouds. From the boat, I enjoyed views of the Marblehead Lighthouse and the Lakeside waterfront and then Kelleys Mansion as we approached the Island.
Kelleys Island did not disappoint. I have been on the Island before but have never traveled so deep, off of the beaten path. I found many unique historic and abandoned places. I took a few sketchy dirt trails, trails that went deep into the woods and felt infrequently traveled because of the number of birds that disturbed. I found myself looking for the end of the trail, not wanting to return the way that I came, but,not sure where it was taking me. I checked my GPS and found a road up ahead. I was relieved when the trail dropped me out on a paved road. The temperature changed depending on what end of the island you were on but I was prepared with layers.
The German Reform Church
The German Reform Church
The Old Stone Crusher
Old Stone CrusherOld Stone Crusher
Camp Patmos
Other spots around the island
The ferry back to the mainland was full and the light was shifting toward dusk. I loaded up and treated myself to a dinner out at the Crows Nest which included an Old Fashion with extra cherries.
The next morning, I took the long way home with a few stops. Along this journey, I found many items to add to the Bohoagogo line. I am processing and preparing to add these found items to the space, where I sell, at Old 42 in Plain City.
There are events in my life that require putting a pen to paper in order to heal. This is one of those events and the paper is covered with tears.
It has been a week and a day since I helped Bruty to leave us. I continue to hear his nails on the hardwood floors and I think that I see him curled up in a chair. I look for him when I leave the house and then again when I get home.
His dinner times and walk times come and go, almost unnoticed. I don’t know what to do with his collar.
I look through old photos of him with my Kids and Grandkids and I witness them growing up as he is growing old.
There was not a baby or small child that he didn’t want to kiss. He loved other dogs and if they could accept his enthusiasm, made friends quickly. He liked to play rough.
When his dog friends came to visit, he would share his favorite toys. Kitties liked him too.
Bruty was a swimmer and would put his head completely under water to retrieve something. He didn’t understand the concept of “drop it” when playing and preferred the struggle of not letting go. When he was younger, he could jump high and was often referred to as “a ball of muscle”. He was a dream runner. He never learned his lesson about messing with skunks.
Brutus was a protector of children and nothing made him happier than to snuggle with them. He would stress out, over salivate and cry when we pushed the Grandkids high in a swing. He would politely, with a soft mouth, on an arm, ask us to stop, when wrestling with the Grandkids. He would wag for strollers.
Bruty respected the no face licking rule, once you let him know that you weren’t into that kind of stuff. Although, he could sneak a fast lick in when the opportunity presented itself. When Stella, our cat, would hiss at one of the Grandkids, Bruty would put himself between them and nudge the cat to tell her to move along.
Brutus was handsome to the end. We took many of our walks through Uptown Westerville and he knew the places to stop and visit a friend or get a treat. He could clear a room. He was a brave strong sissy. He would howl with delight when I came home.
He was not a beggar but demanded a treat after going out and was accused regularly of faking the need to go out, just for a treat. His nose never stopped working. His guard dog abilities were questionable.
Brutus kept the kitchen floor free of food debris. He was fast and resisted his advanced age, failing, abilities. Saying “he was a good boy” is a gross understatement.
Bruty is the pet that I have loved and loss that I really hope to see again. To comfort me, a friend said to me, “God does not destroy what he has created.” I really hope this is true.
I often wonder why God would give us the unfaltering, loyal friendship of a dog, yet make their lives so much shorter than our own. I believe there are lessons there, life lessons about loyalty, love and loss.
My Vet said that 50% of pet owners choose not to be with their pet at the time of euthanasia. I now know that I should have considered myself, to be, one of those pet owners.
I have been waiting for the call about picking up Brutys ashes. The Veterinarians office called yesterday and said “we have Brutus hear” and I thought…….no, you don’t.
Rest in Peace my Bruty Boy. You were a Prince, a testament to your species and an Ambassador for your breed. You truly were one of the kindest beings that I have ever know. You are missed by many. Thank you for the life lessons. You taught me well.
Before you visit a place, for the first time, you imagine what it will be like. Martha’s Vineyard was so much better than I ever imagined.
My bedroom June 2021 Marthas Vineyard
I recently returned from a lovely time in Martha’s Vineyard. The weather was perfect, warm enough to swim, yet cool enough to visit on the porch. I could walk outside comfortably and loved the evenings when I needed a shawl or a sweater.
Lamberts Cove
My visit was during the peak of the early blooming flowers. I found tightly planted gardens with multiple assorted blooms, white picket fences dripping with roses and the most vibrant, happy, Hydrangeas in unrivaled shades of blues and purples. We stayed in Tisbury, more widely known as Vineyard Haven. It is a year round working harbor. We could easily stroll, from are vacation home to the lively cultural district with eateries, galleries, shops and more.
Vineyard HavenVineyard Haven
Between my Sisters family and my own, we had a group of 14 staying in an historic house, looking over the Vineyard Haven Harbor. The house had three floors with porches and balconies. We found a well appointed kitchen, comfortable beds, high quality furniture and original artwork.
Vineyard Haven Vineyard HavenVineyard HavenThe Third Floor
The event that brought me to M.V. was the Wedding of my Sister. The Grooms Sister lives on the Island, in Chilmark, and offered to host the event. Chilmark is located on the lush, green rural side of the island where you find rolling hills, isolated beaches, lovely vistas and stacked stone fences. Chilmark felt much like a Scottish countryside and was home to a working fishing village and healthy farms that seemed untouched by time.
Merlin, at the spot where the vows were exchanged.The WeddingThe Allen Farm, ChilmarkAllen Farm, ChilmarkMenemsha Pond, ChilmarkMenemsha, an active fishing village in Chilmark
Aquinnah is on the Western most side of the island and was once known as Gay Head. Aquinnah is home to the Wampanoag Tribe, the original Natives to the island. Here is where you will find the breathtaking Aquinnah Cliffs and the historic Gay Head Lighthouse. If you trek down to the bottom of the cliffs, the large rocks on the beach give it “another world” feeling. On the day that my sister walked to the base of the cliffs, she found nude sunbathers on the beach.
Aquinnah Cliffs and Gay Head LighthouseAquinnahAquinnah Cliffs and Gay Head Lighthouse (see the people on the beach?)
The sun rises and sets earlier on the east coast. I found the glow of sunrise at 4:30 AM and by 5:30 AM it was bright enough in my room, to blatantly promote getting out of bed.
4:30 AM
I so enjoyed the sound of the ferry horn blasts. The sound was a constant reminder of where I was in the world… along the water… in beautiful Martha’s Vineyard. Hearing the horn blast while standing at the kitchen sink, overlooking the harbor, I imagined earlier times in history, when the sound of the ferry horn would be a signal of the arrival of a missed and not often seen loved one who had written in a letter, the date and time of there expected arrival. Occasionally,during my visit, my people were on the ferry and the sound represented the coming and going of my own.
The Ferry
These lyrics: “When you hear that fog horn blow you know that I’ll be coming home.”My daughters boyfriend rode from Ohio and ferried over.
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Oak Bluffs, is the coastal town next to Vineyard Haven and is home to the Ginger Bread Cottages that are a part of an Historic Methodist Camp. Here, you will find, America’s oldest Carousel, and the African American Heritage Trail. Oak Bluffs is the seasonal port for ferries from Cape Cod, New Bedford, Rhode Island and New York. I caught a small, passenger only ferry here to Nantucket. Oak Bluffs is known for it’s live music, many shops and eateries and nightlife.
Oak BluffsOak Bluffs
Edgartown is the first town of the island, founded by whaling captains. The town is filled with historic homes, high end boutiques and many restaurants. Edgartown is where you can catch the “On Time” ferry to Chappaquiddick island. The island is very rural and the ferry is a few dollars and about a five minute ride.
EdgartownShop in EdgartownEdgar Town
There is a lively art scene on Martha’s Vineyard. I visited many galleries including, The Featherstone Center for the Arts and the Field Gallery.
Featherstone Center for the ArtsTheField Gallery
An interesting Tidbit.
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I took a small ferry out of Oak Bluffs to Nantucket Island. Nantucket had an historic harbor with ships that you may find on “Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous”. It was bustling with cobblestone streets and historic buildings. I found high end, Rodeo Drive type boutiques, galleries and many places to eat and drink. I enjoyed my visit to the Whaling Museum and toured an historic home. It was a short trip and I nearly missed my ferry back to M.V. (it is hard to hustle on cobblestones.)
Nantucket
I found the people on Martha’s Vineyard kind, open and excepting. I have never encountered more considerate drivers. The Island was listed in the “Green Book” and during the Jim Crow years, was considered a safe place for Black people to vacation.
Sunset near West Tisbury
The need for a car on the island is downplayed. There are affordable and frequent buses to take you from town to town but not many stops in between. If you plan to bring your car, schedule your ferry as soon as you know your dates. Otherwise, there are car rentals on the island. You can also rent scooters and bikes. While there are many off road bike trails in town, there were many places where bikers shared the busy roads with cars.
I took a drive in search of Christian Town and the Indian Burial Grounds that I had read about. The building below was built in 1829 to replace the original gathering house of the “Praying Indians”, members of the early, easily converted, Wampanoag tribe. The building was somewhat hidden and in the center of a wooded, housing development with houses on multiple acres, built during many different eras. I found the trail to the burying grounds but it was much too overground to walk.
Christian Town
I was able to find a few Antique shops and a Thrift shop. I purchased a a few unique, affordable, second hand souvenirs
Souvenirs
To end this post, I thought that I would share my telling, final experience on Martha’s Vineyard.
The MV Airport is very small. When we arrived we exited the plane from a ramp on to the Tarmac, like a President. There was a wooden “Welcome to Martha’s Vineyard” archway sign where people were greeting and hugging.
At the end of my trip, I returned to the same Airport and checked in at the airline counter. A middle aged, masculine, no nonsense woman, printed out my boarding pass. Later in the outdoor, tented, waiting area, the same woman checked my boarding pass and I made my way out onto the tarmac to get on the plane. Once on the airplane, I stuffed my always questionable in size, carry-on into the overhead compartment, buckled up and settled in for takeoff. When I felt the plane backing up, I looked out the window and guess who had the batons and was guiding the pilot out to the runway?